Interview with Sandra Areh – “The Fabulous, God-loving Career Woman – Striking A Balance”.

Women are wonderful creatures of God.

A proof of God’s artistry.

Although with a lot of cares like what to wear, what to use and what not, some of us are still kingdom ambassadors and passionately chasing after God – a relentless pursuit. Coupled with that, some women are career women.

How then do we give to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God, what is God’s?

How do I balance my school/career work, my relationship and service for God and looking beautiful?

I had this amazing interview with the beautiful Sandra Areh on “The fabulous, God-loving career woman. – Striking a balance.”

You’re sure going to learn a thing or two..

Dupe: Welcome to Dupe’s blog ma. Can we meet you?

Sandra Areh: My name is Sandra Areh.

Dupe: What do you do?

Sandra Areh: I work as a Personal Assistant to a Legislator.


Dupe: On a scale of 1-10, how busy are you with work daily?

Sandra Areh: On the average 7-8


Dupe: Wow that’s on the high side.

How long have you been born again?

Sandra Areh: Over 7yrs.


Dupe: Great. Meaning you were still in school then?

Sandra Areh: Yes, I made the decision in my first week in school after I gained admission, although I was raised in a Christian home and I loved God.


Dupe: Were you involved in kingdom activities whilst in school?

Sandra Areh: Yes I was


Dupe: Was it easy? Having to do that along with school work.

Sandra Areh: I would say my time was planned, I had what you’ll call a triangular lifestyle- Lectures, church and back to my hostel. It wasn’t so demanding because I loved it…


Dupe: Interesting.

Can you share some of the challenges and struggles you had? If any.

Sandra Areh: Challenges in what area?


Dupe: Lecture/assignments and church/fellowship meetings. Did your lecture time disrupt your time for God?

Sandra Areh: Not necessarily. Most of my spiritual activities were in the evening/nights and I had lectures from morning-afternoon sometimes evening… There was really no disruption. 

Although, at some point I had to withdraw a little from some spiritual groups because my commitment was dropping due to time constraints and I put in my all into a select few. 

I had to be extra deliberate on my time management.



Dupe: Okay.

Now as a working class woman, has anything changed?

Sandra Areh: A PA job is all encompassing and very demanding. I only have a resumption time but I don’t have a closing time…


Dupe: Wow!

How do you cope with this?

Sandra Areh: First thing I did was ensure that my employer is fully aware of my commitment to God and His Kingdom


Dupe: Hmmm…

Sandra Areh: Also, Godly character goes a long to endorse that proposition…

Secondly, my major responsibilities in church are mainly during the weekends and I work only from Monday-Friday except on rare occasions where I’m called upon to do a few things or when I travel because my job also involves traveling.

I also take advantage of church online, this I do very well.

For instance, when I cannot meet up with mid-week services, I follow online or if I’m going to be late still follow up till I get to church.

I take advantage of my night times to pray and listen to messages.. Then I read books especially when I’m free in the office or at home too. 

Dupe: “Also, Godly character goes a long to endorse that proposition” … Can you explain what you mean by this ↑?
Sandra Areh: It’s not enough to say you are a Christian, your attitude towards work and people speaks loudly. Diligence, integrity, respect, love, selflessness and more.

For instance, Godly virtues gave me opportunity to request for leave to attend a Bible school and it was granted with all joy… Even during the period I did one or two things for my Boss and He really appreciated it.


Dupe: Wow, Nice.

That’s amazing. The virtues you embraced, gave you access.

You’re a very busy woman, do you get enough time for yourself?

Sandra Areh: I do some times.


Dupe: Is it necessary for a young woman encumbered with a lot of activities to look good?

Sandra Areh: Absolutely!

Planning is the key.

Dupe: Does one have to spend too much time on one’s self to look good?

Sandra Areh: I don’t think so… I think knowing what suits will save you much time and meeting the right people/professionals… For instance, if  you go to a good saloon, the professional stylist will know what will fit the shape of  your face complexion and do their job.


Dupe: Yes. Knowing what works for you will save you time and energy.

Sandra Areh: Like scripture puts it, everyone should abide in their calling *laughs*.


Dupe: πŸ˜„ 

Ladies are engaged in a lot of things; considering this, do you think we can do as much as men do for God?

Sandra Areh: Yes. I believe in the power of prioritizing and delegation… You can not do everything. Do what is most important and delegate the rest to the right people.


Dupe: Beautiful..

What are the things that should be dropped in order to fully concentrate on important things?

Sandra Areh: Well, this differs from person to person… You’d have to define is important and give it time. God, your relationship(s), career/business etc


Dupe: Do you have any role model or woman you look up to?

Sandra Areh: Yes I do. Lots of them oo.


Dupe: Can we know some of them?

Sandra Areh: Just women right??


Dupe: Yes, just women

Sandra Areh: Pst(Mrs) Faith Oyedepo, Dr (Mrs) Becky Eneche, Pst(Mrs) Funke Adejumo, Pst(Mrs) Modele Fatoyinbo, Pst(Mrs) Opi Agha and more…

Dupe: Wow, great women.

Sandra Areh: Yes, they are…


Dupe: Do you have any word of advice for ladies in pursuit of God and purpose?

Sandra Areh: God is the Ultimate, hold unto Him tighter than any other thing. God first and He’ll compel other things to follow.

 

Dupe: Wow! Thank you so much for your time ma.

We hope to see more of you.

Sandra Areh: 😁 My pleasure darling. God Bless you!


Dupe: Bless you too ma 


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And leave your thoughts and comments below πŸ˜€.


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20 facts about me

Hey guys. Happy Twos day.

I hope your week is moving well.

These are 20 interesting and boring facts about me. At first, it was very difficult coming up with 20 but now, there’s so much to write that 20 isn’t enough. So expect something more soon.

  1. My names are Olomola Sarah Modupe Busayo Mama Abeke. (Yes, they’re all mineπŸ˜ƒ).
  2. I’m a passionate reckless unapologetic Christian and lover of God.
  3. I’m a student of veterinary medicine.
  4. I’m obsessed with organization : I love things being in order. I love planning before time. I could pack my bags for a journey, three months before I’m set to leave. I love clearing my room. I love sorting clothes out before and after washing. I started writing down what should be done at a very young age. I’d write down my little “to-do” list and tick each one as I get it done. I love a perfectly arranged room, cupboard or locker (I may still scatter it sha).
  5. I love a little too much : I’m a lover, not a fighter πŸ˜‚. I love fiercely. When I love, I love with all (but when I don’t care, that’s it).
  6. I hate tea and I hate fish (with a passion) : I lost interest in fish when I was quite young and the reason then were the bones. The bones used to hurt me. Now it’s gone beyond that, I can’t even stand the smell of fish. Whenever I attempt eating it, it doesn’t end well (puke). As for tea, I just don’t like it.
  7. I laugh and smile a lot : Although, the Joy of the Lord is my strength, πŸ˜‚ this is becoming a problem because I laugh at serious times and when people are upset and it’s honestly never intentional. Most time my eyes smile before my face does. 
  8. I’m very sensitive : I get hurt easily and I read deep into words.
  9. I go from 100% love to 100% I-Dont-Care and nonchanlance, real fast.
  10. I love my mom with my life.
  11. My best friend is a very tall guy.
  12. I love Apostle Joshua Selman.
  13. I’m passionately crazily in love with bread.
  14. I hate cooking ; I only cook because I have to.
  15. I play a little too much.
  16. I love dressing corporate ; Even for normal events, I sometimes put on my blazer. πŸ˜‚
  17. I love people ; Love is a command. I especially love Nigerians, our diversity and culture.
  18. Sometimes, I talk too fast and stutter when I’m angry.
  19. I love Sarah Jakes Roberts ; she’s my role model.
  20. I’m sapiosexual.

Bonus : I get bored easily ; I can be sitting and watching you but I’m actually not seeing you. My mind is never idle, it’s always busy cause I have big dreams. πŸ˜‚

    There! I hope you feel like you know me better now. 

    Creating Your Reality

    I learnt something interesting on Sunday and I knew I had to share and write on it.

    We have two dimensions in the prophetic.

    1. Foreseeing

    2. Forth seeing 

    1. Foreseeing: This is a situatiom where an individual has gotten to a level where he/she has access to and can reveal the mind of God concerning something or someone for the future. Not everyone can foresee because it’s restricted to certain people, such that have the gift or have attained a particular level.
    2. Forth seeing: This is a case where an individual prophetically calls forth what they want to see and what they want to enter into experientially. It is not restricted to only some category of people, Your status as a child of God qualifies you for this. You have the power to call forth something that be not as though it were. All Christians can do this.

    You may not be able to foresee (yet) but you can forth see.

    You can call to be what you want by seeing it in your head. If you can’t see yourself there, you can’t get there.

    Apostle Joshua Selman says “The best way to predict your future is to create it”. There’s no accidental success. Begin to see yourself where you want to go. See yourself getting that degree with an amazing result, see yourself getting that job, see yourself writing and publishing that book, see yourself reaching your full potential. Your vision and confession are your possession.

    Possess the ability to see yourself in your goals.

    Cramps ; 5 Ways to mitigate them.

    The menstrual cycle is a very big part of every lady’s life.

    Our cycle comes with certain symptoms, pain or uneasiness known as premenstrual syndrome (PMS), MP (Menstrual pain) or menstrual cramps.

    Ladies, it’s no rocket science, it’s just you, feeling your uterus contract to shed its lining.

    This pain comes at different times, depending on the individual.

    For some, it comes days before, (PMS) informing them of the arrival of the cycle. While for others, it may come during or even after.

    It could be devastating and although it differs from girl to girl, it’s usually not too nice on anyone. Some ladies don’t feel cramps too much because the pain is quite mild on them and they can manage or ignore it. While others can not.

    Years ago, I read about a lady whose cramps were so bad that she’d miss exams due to pain. She’d stay at a spot and any slight movement could cause her serious pain. I also had a roommate who groans all through her menstrual days.

    Certain things also accompany menstrual pain, like Abdominal bloating, Headache (including migraine), Irritability, Pains, especially backache, Depression, Feeling generally emotional or troubled, Insomnia, Lack of concentration, Breast tenderness or swelling, Slight weight gain, Binge eating, restlessness, cravings and so on.

    The pain could be very severe, So you may not get the best of a lady during her cycle, depending on how hard it is on her. In all of these, there are still ways to alleviate the pain. (These are just alleviation methods so if pain persists, see a physician or gynecologist).

    I’ve brought out 5 simple ways..

    5 Ways To Mitigate Menstrual Cramps

    1. Exercise; Exercise is generally very good for the body to shed excess fat and to keep fit. During menstruation however, it helps even more in that it loosens up your muscles and eases the pain. So a jog down the road, a fast walk in the early hours of the morning, riding a bicycle, doing stretches and aerobics go a long way in mitigating pain and keeping you healthy during your period. A warm bath afterwards is also very important. (Warms baths should be taken regularly during periods).
    2. Eat healthy; Less fats, sweets and Carbs, more Vegetables and fruits. “A low-fat diet actually decreases overall levels of inflammation in the body,” says Aldo Palmieri MD , an ob/gyn at UCLA Health and professor of ob/gyn at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine in Los Angeles. A low-fat, vegetarian diet not only helps your health generally, says Dr. Palmieri, but it can have an indirect yet noticeable effect on menstrual cramps, too.
    3. Rub your lower tummy; Using certain aromatic essential oils and massage can also relieve menstrual cramp pain, according to a study published in May 2012 in the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology Research. You can also use a bottle of warm water. Self massaging helps relax the muscles.
    4. Eat chocolate; Yes eat chocolate. But note. “CHOCOLATE” not “CHOCOLATES” The last thing you need is excess glucose. A bar of chocolate won’t hurt. Dark chocolate to be precise because it contains caffeine, ion, magnesium and potassium and helps to reduce stress, boost mood, reduce pain, improve skin, reduce muscle cramps and relieve aching muscles.
    5. Pop a Safe Painkiller; I made this the last because not everyone is comfortable with taking pain killers. So if the above methods helped, this can be ignored but moderate use of a nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory medication (NSAID), such as ibuprofen or naproxen, can help.

    Bonus: Rest and sleep well.

    When the pain is so severe that it interferes with normal activity, it is called dysmenorrhea and requires medication.

    Do you get PMS or menstrual cramps and what do you do to reduce the pain. Leave comments and thanks for reading! ❀

    “Process” – The Refiner’s Flame

    Lately, I’ve been thinking and writing a lot about process.

    Some of us are already familiar with the word “process” but for those that are not, you can also refer to it as “training” or “refining”..

    A time of thorough discipline.

    Process is actually wide but I’ll write about a fraction of it today.

    Apostle Joshua Selman says “It’s not enough to be available, you must be usable”.

    In essence, we have a lot of available people, who are willing to work, but are they usable?

    Are you capable of being used?

    If you’re available but not usable, then you haven’t gone through process.

    Process is a series of event or set of procedures involved in “making”. So when you’re in process, you’re being “made”.

    Process doesn’t mean God has left you, in fact, it proves that He is with you, He loves you and wants you to be excellent.

    This training comes in divers ways, most times, unpleasing.

    If you’re a person used to being loved and appreciated, God can strategically place you in a system where you are not valued, loved or appreciated, a place where people don’t see you as a big deal. At first, you try to fight it, resist it, but it’s clear. It stings your ego and you begin to feel sad. You may even begin to feel inferior, (if you’re not spiritually intelligent enough to know what God is doing).

    Don’t hate or loathe those people, they are just acting according to plan. They are part of your process. At the end of the day, after that phase is over, you realize something has left you.

    Pride.

    Yes, pride.

    God has made you know what it feels like to be looked down on, so when people appreciate you, you value it.

    Most times, God refines us through the “flame” (uncomfortable situations) and the reason is because a lot of things have to leave us ; just like the Goldsmith does with his gold.

    If you want to be usable, some things have to leave you.

    You’re not usable the way you are, unless you want to settle for mediocrity.

    To reach your full potential, you must be refined.

    When you’re going through process, all you can do is ask for Grace, but you can’t ask it to pass over you.

    God has been taking you through various processes that have come as unpleasant (sometimes even embarrassing) situations and you have been missing it because instead of asking God “What are you teaching me through this? What do you want me to learn?”, you focus more on the situation and the people and let it bring you down and that is a bad thing because you can’t become successful that way.

    No one EVER identifies with process, but everyone wants to identify with success.

    After process, you become usable, which makes you successful.

    God is refining His people. A lot of people are going through process right now, (and I pray for Grace for them all) but you may not know.

    Stop fighting situations around you and learn from them.

    It may be very unpleasant, but remember, you’re becoming a better person.

    Wait

    Wait

    Wait…..

    A word I’ve come to hate

    They’ve all gone, very far

    Some are close to getting “it”

    Others are not, but they are all far ahead of me.

    Yet you ask me to wait!

    You keep holding me back here

    I know I have what it takes

    I know the costs and the stakes

    I can do more than their expectations

    I know I can surpass their peaks.
    Why do you keep holding me back?

    Why won’t you let the spotlight shine on me?

    Why won’t you let me go out and get a “name”?

    Do you hate me so much that you don’t want to see me celebrated?

    What is it about me that you have refused me to be revealed?

    You keep whispering, in my ears, “Wait, wait”.

    I’m getting tired of waiting …..

    His reply

    “And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, and was in the deserts till the day of his shewing unto Israel.

    Your day of shewing is yet to come

    I love you too much to put you out there prematurely.

    You despise this desert experience, but you’re ignorant of the fact that it’s building you..

    Wait, my child or you’ll rise  like smoke only to disappear without a trace. 

    Wait princess, lest you be like them, here today and gone tomorrow.

    Wait for the appointed time

    Wait for your time of “shewing”

    They may have gone ahead of you but they are not ahead of you

    Because when I’m ready to reveal to the world what I’ve been working on, in you, I accelerate you. 

    Have you not heard?  ‘They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they  shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not  be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.’

    So wait, for in no time your wings will be ready to soar.”

    ​More than half way gone

    Flipping through the pages
    Some nonchalantly
    Some full of purpose

    Laughs, love, tears, cares

    197 pages closed already, only 168 left

    What lies ahead?

    Does a fulfilling 197 pages guarantee a fulfilling 168?

    Two questions.
    β€’ I’ve had it all together since the 1st of January with no mistakes or disappointments, does that guarantee that my December 31st will be full of laughs, joy and contentment?

    β€’ From January till now, it’s been one challenge or the other.

    Tears, fears and misery

    I’ve fallen literally all through the year

    I’ve had more tears than laughs.

    I’ve not had a beautiful first half, is my year wasted?

    A fulfilling first half doesn’t guarantee a beautiful second half neither does a miserable first half mean a bad end.

    Jeremiah 29:11

    For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, saith the Lord.

    Thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.



    For those who haven’t had a nice start, you have a role to play but are you willing to trust the one who knows this story better than you?

    Proverbs 3:5-6

    Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not on your own understanding.

    In all your ways acknowledge Him, and he shall direct your path.

    Entrust the next chapters to this author and watch him direct and help you.

    ​My Dual Citizenship

    Hi bunnies
    Some Sundays back, in church, we had an interactive session from Matthew 22 verse 15 where the Pharisees were trying to cage Jesus and challenged him with the question about payment of taxes, and we looked at Jesus’ epic response “Give to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God what is God’s”
    We brought forth the different interpretations that have been given to what Jesus said, including those that said, “What Jesus meant was As a christian, you can serve God and still pay allegiance to ‘gods’ performing sacrifices and all”

    We immediately refuted and corrected that interpretation. That is paying allegiance to Satan! So for the benefit of those that believe it’s totally ok to seek God on Sunday and “consult” other means behind the curtains. That is wrong! Matthew 6:24/Luke 16:13

    We were now made to understand that Jesus Christ was only telling them to give the necessary dues to constituted authorities and at the same time, give honor to God.

    Pay your tithe and pay your tax!

    That was my muse for this post.

    It only got me thinking, Jesus was talking about dual citizenship!

    I’ve been saved so I’m a citizen of Heaven and a citizen Nigeria.

    A person with dual citizenship is entitled to the rights of both nations and at the same time is obliged to obey the rules of both countries.
    So as a Nigerian, I get to enjoy the rights of every Nigerian 

    And as a citizen of the kingdom, I get to enjoy and draw from everything made available in the kingdom.

    I obey kingdom rules, At the same time, I obey the rules and regulations of my country Nigerian.

    I live the life of God which assures me eternal life and I apply the principles of Jesus which guarantees success here on earth.

    Now the only time a problem will arise is when obeying Nigeria means disobeying the rules of the kingdom.

    You see when you have 2 things, you enjoy both but when it gets to a point where one has to go, you go for the one that is more important.

    Priorities.

    So as a Nigerian, Payment of taxes, obeying simple rules and regulations set by constituted authorities, giving honor to secular leaders (believers or not) and other things expected of me, I do.

    Not doing them, will not speak well of me as a Christian. The only time I’m allowed to be defiant is when they’re going to make me compromise.

    I only become a “rebel” when my convictions are being thwarted because I have the understand that 

    I am living as a citizen of heaven here on earth

    I am a first a citizen of heaven before a citizen of Nigeria but that does not permit me to be disobedient to authorities in my country.

    At the end of the lesson I was able to make my own little resolution to obey God and my leaders.

    To be loyal as a citizen of heaven and a citizen of Nigeria and exploit both privileges.

    18 But Jesus perceived  their wickedness, and said, Why tempt ye me,  ye  hypocrites? 

    19 Shew me the tribute money. And they  brought unto him a penny. 

    20 And he saith unto them,  Whose  is this image and superscription?  

    21 They  say unto him, Caesar’s. Then saith he unto them,  Render therefore unto Caesar the things which are  Caesar’s; and unto God the things that are God’s. 

    22  When they had heard these words, they marvelled,  and left him, and went their way.


    5 THINGS I LOVE ABOUT MY SPIRITUAL FATHER

    Apostle Joshua Selman Nimmak is my spiritual father.
    There are so many things I love about him but I’ll share just five.

    It’s his birthday tomorrow and I thought it best to do this now.

    Apostle Joshua Selman is a young man of God whose teachings are deep truth of the word of God.

    He is a carrier of God’s presence.

    His impact cannot be exaggerated or overemphasized.
    He finished from ABU and he has been in ministry for not less than 9years, though Eternity Nertwork International (ENI) just clocked 6years in March 2017.
    I’m not writing his biography, I’m writing on the things I love about him.

    I’ve been attending koinonia for a few years now so I’m not writing from a fan’s point of view, neither am i writing about someone i read about or someone I’ve heard about. I’m writing as a daughter and a disciple. 
    Attending koinonia, all I can say is that you have to be there to know what’s up. Trying to fully explain the experience is not really possible as my vocabulary is not updated enough to use the magnitude of words I want to.
    So here you go, 5 things I love about my father.

    1. Humility : For a man that carries God’s presence and is an envoy of the most high, Apostle is humility personified. He doesn’t just preach the law of honor, he practices it. His spiritual escapades has never made him a showoff. His respect to mothers, fathers and ministers of God, baffles me. 1Peter 5:5. I’m so sure this is one of the reasons God loves him James 4:6, Psalm 138:6. Pride is far from him Prov 16:5.
    2. His command of English language : He has made it clear severally that oratory is different from utterance (he has both). His command of English is something I admire so much. Listening to him and how fluent he is, you’d think learning English language will make you speak that well but that’s a lie. The spirit backs up his words so even if you weren’t really interested in listening, at some point, your mind will be captured, which leads me to number 3.
    3. His ability to capture the minds of people : People attend Koinonia for different reasons and with different intentions but end up surrendering to God and this reminds me of one of Apostle’s saying  “You may come the way you are but you can’t remain the way you are”. He communicates the message of God to people so well that even people that don’t understand English well, understand him. This is one gift God has given to him, the teaching anointing. If he were my lecturer, I would never fail 😊😊.
    4. His smile : It can light up a room, hehe. 😊 I was speaking with one of his closest workers and he said “Apart from the loving father side of him, he’s an administrator and loves organization”. So he doesn’t smile often but when he does, it’ll just melt your heart. It has melted mine many times. He is a beautiful creature (before nko? With all that glory of God shining and radiating on him, what do you expect? Spending time with God will just make you over fine. The secret place beautifies you). And his smile is heavenly. So yea, his smile is yet another reason I love Apostle Joshua Selman.
    5. His sincere desire to see people truly blessed: He has access to several mysteries and secrets of God and he’s not selfish with them. He gives timely messages. Each and every koinonia message carries power. In every message, he dispenses what he has received. He imparts in his workers, he blesses people financially. He gives everything.

    There are so many other things I love about him like ; his love for his workers, his sacrificial lifestyle, his ability to make you feel special, his desire to see God glorified in everything he does, his sense of humor and the list goes on unending.

    Three of his favorite quotes are ; 

    1. “We will all be great and the beautiful part is, we will all know ourselves”.
    2. “You may come the way you are but you can’t remain the way you are”.
    3. “The anointing does not make the difference, the anointing IS the difference”.

    Happy birthday daddy, I love, honor and celebrate you.

    Happy birthday sir

    Finally for those expecting me to write his age, I’m not writing. If you want to know, ask Google. πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

    YOUR EYES

    Your eyes

    The first thing I noticed after your height
    They were fascinating. 

    Special

    Different

    βˆ‚.

    Your eyes, they revealed so much

    Promises for the future. Castles we’d build together.

    They communicated with mine quite often.

    Revealed your vulnerability

    They told me you had a soft part.

    Deep down within your strong physical structure is a sweet baby,  who loves totally

    They told me when you were happy and when you were not.

    They told me when you were excited and when I should be worried.

    Dear bestie, your eyes have been snitching on you.

    They’ve gotten so close to mine.

    I wrote this for you, to let you know you have beautiful eyes that became my friends long before you got close to me β™₯

    Dedicated to my best friend

    Happy birthday in advance β™₯

    I love you.