REGRETS – My story

Currently listening to God favored me by Hezekiah Walker.

Happy Friyay guys! #TGIF

I was to have an online night prayer last week which was supposed to start by 12am on Friday, the first of December. I was to lead a session of prayer.
Meanwhile, I had a photoshoot on Thursday which was quite stressful and I was tired so I began searching my bag of tricks for a trick to keep me awake till 12am, if I was back in school in the hostel, that would have been easy but I wasn’t so…

I forced myself to stay in the parlor and kept my eyes glued to the TV in a bid to keep them open.
10pm at home and everyone was ready to sleep so I had to move to my room.
Tick tock, tick tock the clock sounded and I yawned after every blink of my eye.
10:20pm and I knew I had to sleep, not even my phone could keep me awake. I decided to employ a few tricks; I set my alarm for 11:30pm, I kept my phone close to my ear then I drank a lot of water, knowing I’d have to wake up to ease myself, then I slept peacefully.
Alagbada ina, He’s my father….” My phone blasted in my head.
That was my alarm, I got up. It was 11:30pm on the dot and I woke up at the first ring because I was already pressed.
After easing myself. I came back to my bed and started my yawns again.
“It’s just 11:37, let me rest small” (Rest after sleep, nawa o. The things we say for sleep).
I lay my head down again and BOOM, I took off.
My brothers and sisters, the next time I’d wake up, it was 3:30am in the morning.
The only thing I didn’t do was cry, even that, I almost did.
I wailed in my heart. I went online and read the prayers for the vigil. They had even called me to remind me but I didn’t wake up and they called only once.
Smokes of regret engulfed me and threatened to choke me.

Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can’t build on it – it’s only good for wallowing in.

Katherine Mansfield

I believe you all can relate. The kind of regret you feel when you let something slip right through your palm. When you were so close, yet so far.

It happens a lot with sleep for me, I stay up till the 11th hour and then I’m off.
I was so pained and all I could do was sit up with my fist under my chin.
Dupe, why are you like this na? The year is ending, people are getting more serious but your own case is different! Nawa o.
I felt like slapping myself.
Then I sent a text to my best friend who is in camp, pouring out my foolishness and laziness.
I ended the text with “I missed the vigil 😞”.
Then his reply came in
Awwwwwwnn, I’m so sorry and I couldn’t wake you up. Don’t beat yourself on this. You’ve done beautifully well right from when you started with them and I celebrate you greatly!
I honor your service!
More grace and strength for you darling.
I love you and you know Jesus loves you much more“.

Ahhh it was as though cold water was poured on my burning heart.
Jesus loves me.
I didn’t wake up for vigil but Jesus loves me!

I didn’t wake up to pray yet Jesus loves me!
I was lazy and complacent but Jesus loves me!
I was drowned in regrets and hated myself but it didn’t stop Jesus from loving me!

This knowledge on its own gave me strength and drove me deeper in love with God.

I immediately started a personal retreat and devotional for discipline to wage war against the spirit of slumber.

Someone just appreciated my efforts despite my mistakes. Have I ever commended myself like that?

How often do we spend our time in regret and fail to realize the fact that we have actually done something worth celebrating.
How often do we feel very bad about past mistakes and people around us make us feel worse?

How often do we give up on ourselves because we think “I’ll never overcome this”?.

Few weeks to the new year and all some of us have to show after a whole year is a full bowl of regrets.
Regrets for things we didn’t do.
Regret for things we did wrong.
Regrets for achieving so little when we believe we could have achieved more.
Regrets for this, regrets for that.
There are measures to be taken to stop the mistakes from repeating themselves but stop hating yourself first.
Today I want you to pile your regrets in front of you, smile at them and say “I made mistakes but I tried, I’m not going to cry over you anymore because I did things worth celebrating”

Life is too short, time is too precious, and the stakes are too high to dwell on what might have been.

Hilary Clinton

And although you’ll have to take certain steps towards ensuring they don’t happen again, like I did, I implore you not to over flog past mistakes.
LET THEM GO!

Don’t look back, you’re not going that way.
For the next one week, concentrate on the things you have done well in the whole of this year and celebrate yourself on them. Take yourself out, if you can afford it and tell yourself “I may not have done it all but I did something and since I’m alive, I am going to do more!”.

Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back.

Katherine Mansfield

And before the year ends, I’ll make a post to help us set goals, achieve them and conquer indiscipline.
Thank you for discovering and being a faithful reader of “Dupe’s Blog“, that is something worth celebrating yourself on.
Always remember that I love you and you can contact me privately to talk about anything.
Have a beautiful weekend.

Meanwhile Monday is my birthday and I’m in my birthday mood 😎.

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Is there hope for your future children?

Happy new month darlings. It’s December, Wow! 2017 is almost over. My next four posts for this year will be very strategic. Make sure not to miss them.

But today, I thought to share something different;

Almost everyone I know has at least one problem with their parent(s). Mostly fathers.
Smoking fathers, jobless-angry fathers, wife beating fathers, cheating parents, rich but ungodly parents.
From childhood sexual abuse to neglect to physical violence to emotional pain.
And what I have come to realize is; Fathers with wrong understanding produce nagging and angry wives.
Whenever I’m worried and upset at certain decisions made by our parents whose results we are suffering from today, God always reminds me of something; If they knew better, they would have done better.
There is a strong societal narrative that we must excuse harm if the intention was good; some parents had good intentions but produced wrong result due to the wrong approach.
But now it’s late and the milk is already spilt. Of what use are our tears? Even though some of them (parents) still won’t admit they were wrong and welcome the better way being introduced to them, we still have some parents who believe they could have done better and are ready to effect little changes where possible.

Do you want a better life for your kids?

Unfortunately, there is a category of people that think since they went through certain things, they do not care if their children go through same. If you belong to that category of people then this post isn’t for you because I’m not here to persuade you or make you see reasons why your children should have a better life.

Be determined to correct the mistakes of your parents with your life.

-Apostle Joshua Selman

This post is for people who didn’t have a “great” family and are ready to put in effort to make sure they don’t bring in children to the world to experience the same pain they experienced.
You saw your dad beat your mom for whatever reason and couldn’t do anything about it but what assurance is there that you won’t beat your own wife when extremely provoked? Sister, what characters have you imbibed that’ll make you live at peace with your spouse?
You saw your dad get drunk night after night and the result was your 10 siblings. You have started sipping small strong drinks. Do you think it’s going to end there?
You and your siblings had to suffer because your parents were financially constrained due to one stream of income, your dad asked your mom not to work or your mom just refused to work. What are you currently doing in your life that’ll avoid that for your children? Are you getting a skill or just waiting for government jobs?

Any way out?
You need to identify your parents mistakes, stop blaming them for it, unlearn the unhealthy habits you have learnt and be determined to give your future family a better life.
Youths tend to dwell in regrets on mistakes made by their parents and use it as an excuse for their failures and limitations; that is a dangerous symptom of laziness.

Forget regret, or life is yours to miss.

Jonathan Larso

You know better so DO better!

Currently I am #1

Hey guys! Surprised to see me so soon?

Well I have decided to be more consistent blogging and make one post every week (which is a step forward) and Friday is the chosen day. So head over here on Fridays for something new.

Today, I’m posting about My Life Lately. I finally decided to join the #CurrentlyIAm trend. So here you go!

Currently I am :

Appreciating : God’s amazing love over me.

Anticipating : My birthday which is on the 11th December. I’m particularly anticipating it this year, for personal reasons 😊.

Excited about : My hair – it’s growing and becoming healthier by the day.

Wearing : Jean trousers. It’s cold and very dusty in Zaria and putting on pants is not advisable.

Happy about : Valuable relationships. Friends, mentors, role models and amazing people around.

Reading : “The Smart Money Woman” by Arese Ugwu and “Harnessing Your Emotion” by Andrew Wommack

Listening to : Amazing by Dunsin Oyekan who I’ve just discovered is an amazing husband and father.

Admiring : Sarah Jakes Roberts and her beautiful family.

Working on : My reading habits (school books). I haven’t opened school books since school closed and this wasn’t the plan.

Struggling with : Consistently working out. I resumed exercise recently and the struggle is real; from pains all over my body as a result of my staying away for too long, to laziness and procrastination. Once my body gets used to it, I promise never to stay away again.

Determined to : Add value to myself and become more consistent in blogging (I’ve decided to start posting every Friday πŸ˜‰).

Planning to : Make pancakes this weekend. (I hope to share the experience with you guys in a post soon).

Craving : Vanilla and red velvet flavored cake.

Learning : How to cook more dishes. At least to increase the quality and quantity of my wife material yard. And I’m Motivated by CulinaryPaulCulinaryPaul.

Irritated by : People who birth kids with no means of fending for them.

Devoting a large part of my time to : Yoruba movies and sleep and they both need to stop soon.

Inspired by : Nike Adeyemi.

In love with : Palazo trousers.

Wishing : I could fast forward school, graduate and just get to fully concentrate on what I really want to do.

There! This is my life lately and my first episode of “Currently I am” I hope you enjoyed reading as much as I enjoyed writing.

See you next Friday πŸ˜‰

MY ROOMMATES

Hi faithful readers.

It’s been a while, I’m sorry for my prolonged silence; I was writing exams.

I’m done with my second semester exams, which implies that I’m moving to a new level (yayyyπŸ’ƒ) and moving to another room (😭).

The thought of getting familiar with another set of people and getting to understand them has been on my mind.

God put it in my heart to share this because He’s been helping me lately with my relationship with people.

At the beginning of the year, I clicked a room in the hostel and met new faces who were later to become my friends and sisters; meet them.

PS:

  • My proximity and closeness to them determines how much I can say about them.

SOPHIA

Tall, beautiful and very intelligent Edo girl. Her fashion sense is on a hundred πŸ’―. She’s blunt and down to earth, an amazing cook and a selfie addict.

Also a passionate lover of football.
She’s the only person I can relate to almost totally, also the only person in the room that understands almost everything I say. She’s very caring and very sacrificial. Loves sleep too much and goes for lectures 30minutes or an hour late.

But…
She gets moody at random and shuts everyone out.
She could be very rude and annoying. She expects everyone to be polite to her; you can’t get your own stuff back from her without saying a “please”.

Most of the time, she’s very unapologetic about her actions.

HALIMA
Also very beautiful and a fashionista. Very funny and lovely to be with. Has a tiny voice that on it’s own, makes you laugh. We always tease her that her husband doesn’t need TV, she’s enough entertainment. Never a dull moment with her.
Foodie πŸ’―; if allowed, she can have breakfast 3 times.

But…
Practices favoritism. Sometimes very rude and speaks rashly (may not be intentional).

Doesn’t filter her words.

HIRHYEL (MY BUNK MATE)
Dark and beautiful northern Christian.
Not a fashion person. Super cook. Book smart and intelligent.
Sometimes, she can be caring for Africa.

But…

Sometimes, speaks rudely to everybody without giving regard.
Speaks slowly but poisonously.

Withdraws to herself a lot.

ASIYA.


Beautiful northern girl. Speaks very good English.
Great talker; story teller of the room.
Hates cooking.

But…
Sometimes, decides to be on her own, just like that!
Could be sarcastic.

Cherishes her bed and doesn’t want anybody on it (as if that were possible πŸ˜’)
Has a sharp piercing voice that can raise the dead (We call her soprano voice)

KHADIJAH


Beautiful fulani girl with beautiful long curly hair.
Loves her books more than anything in the world.
Could read a whole day nonstop, if allowed.
Fashionista; she sews and wears the most beautiful Ankara styles in the room. Make up artist and selfie addict.

But…
Her reading habit makes every other person in the room look like they’re not serious.
A little secretive.

MARIA


Dark northerner. Great talker and story teller. Nice and sacrificial.

But…
Very sarcastic and rude. Talks way too much and wants everyone silent while she speaks – which means we won’t be talking in a while.

MUNARH


Very pretty Igala girl. Fashion sense πŸ’―πŸ˜. IntrovertπŸ’―.
Very humble and nice. Quiet and reserved. Very open to learning new things.

But…
Always with her phone and hardly speaks to anyone. Sometimes ignores you when you talk because talking is stressful for her.
Never in the mood to go out so she bails on us most times when we plan to go out together.

Dupe. (MY HUMBLE SELF)

Beautiful Yoruba girl😊.

Fashionista.
Very intelligent. Jesus lover that never stops playing worship in the room. Cares for everyone and wants to know why you’re moody, if you’ve eaten, where you’re going and when you’ll be back.
Hates cooking.

But…
Withdraws to herself sometimes.
Comes in from church very late almost everyday and disturbs everybody’s sleep. Phone rings at any time of the day.

Plays worship as soon as she’s up and messgaes during the day and everybody has to listen.

Gets upset whenever anyone sits on her bed or makes use of her properties without her consent.

First semester was tough for all of us. We were always having issues with one another. We lacked understanding and mutual agreement.

Everybody had an issue or two with another person.

Today, you think “oh I think she’s better, I like her” and tomorrow, she shows you a side of her, you’ll detest.

But second semester I got to understand everyone of them (including myself) and saw the good in them, regardless of their shortcomings.

When I saw the;

-beauty and wonder in SOPHIA
-beauty and humility in HALIMA
-beauty and good intentions in HIRHYEL
-beauty and plainness in ASIYA
-beauty and ambition in KHADIJAH 1
-beauty and sacrifice in MARIA
-beautiful and pleasant personality MUNARH is
-beauty and love in DUPE.

I began to relate with them better. I understood them and tried to see things from their point of view and not judge. I leant their values and respected them.

Could it be, that the reason you’re having people issues is due to lack of mutual understanding and respect?

Could it be that you’re always at loggerheads with someone because you don’t see things like them?

Could it be that you do not like people because all you see is the bad in them and not the good?

When you understand people, respect their values, see things from their perspective and never judge them based on their actions, you’ll relate better with them and love them.

There is nobody who is bad; this is the secret to loving everyone.
When you understand that people are slaves to their understanding, then you can look at someone “unlovable” and still love them.

-Apostle Joshua Selman

I urge you dear reader, never write anyone off. Give them the chance.

There’s a good in everyone you meet.

There are no bad people, just people with bad behaviors. You don’t want to know what some of them have been through.
Change them if you can and if you can’t, just love them.

Interview with Sandra Areh – “The Fabulous, God-loving Career Woman – Striking A Balance”.

Women are wonderful creatures of God.

A proof of God’s artistry.

Although with a lot of cares like what to wear, what to use and what not, some of us are still kingdom ambassadors and passionately chasing after God – a relentless pursuit. Coupled with that, some women are career women.

How then do we give to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God, what is God’s?

How do I balance my school/career work, my relationship and service for God and looking beautiful?

I had this amazing interview with the beautiful Sandra Areh on “The fabulous, God-loving career woman. – Striking a balance.”

You’re sure going to learn a thing or two..

Dupe: Welcome to Dupe’s blog ma. Can we meet you?

Sandra Areh: My name is Sandra Areh.

Dupe: What do you do?

Sandra Areh: I work as a Personal Assistant to a Legislator.


Dupe: On a scale of 1-10, how busy are you with work daily?

Sandra Areh: On the average 7-8


Dupe: Wow that’s on the high side.

How long have you been born again?

Sandra Areh: Over 7yrs.


Dupe: Great. Meaning you were still in school then?

Sandra Areh: Yes, I made the decision in my first week in school after I gained admission, although I was raised in a Christian home and I loved God.


Dupe: Were you involved in kingdom activities whilst in school?

Sandra Areh: Yes I was


Dupe: Was it easy? Having to do that along with school work.

Sandra Areh: I would say my time was planned, I had what you’ll call a triangular lifestyle- Lectures, church and back to my hostel. It wasn’t so demanding because I loved it…


Dupe: Interesting.

Can you share some of the challenges and struggles you had? If any.

Sandra Areh: Challenges in what area?


Dupe: Lecture/assignments and church/fellowship meetings. Did your lecture time disrupt your time for God?

Sandra Areh: Not necessarily. Most of my spiritual activities were in the evening/nights and I had lectures from morning-afternoon sometimes evening… There was really no disruption. 

Although, at some point I had to withdraw a little from some spiritual groups because my commitment was dropping due to time constraints and I put in my all into a select few. 

I had to be extra deliberate on my time management.



Dupe: Okay.

Now as a working class woman, has anything changed?

Sandra Areh: A PA job is all encompassing and very demanding. I only have a resumption time but I don’t have a closing time…


Dupe: Wow!

How do you cope with this?

Sandra Areh: First thing I did was ensure that my employer is fully aware of my commitment to God and His Kingdom


Dupe: Hmmm…

Sandra Areh: Also, Godly character goes a long to endorse that proposition…

Secondly, my major responsibilities in church are mainly during the weekends and I work only from Monday-Friday except on rare occasions where I’m called upon to do a few things or when I travel because my job also involves traveling.

I also take advantage of church online, this I do very well.

For instance, when I cannot meet up with mid-week services, I follow online or if I’m going to be late still follow up till I get to church.

I take advantage of my night times to pray and listen to messages.. Then I read books especially when I’m free in the office or at home too. 

Dupe: “Also, Godly character goes a long to endorse that proposition” … Can you explain what you mean by this ↑?
Sandra Areh: It’s not enough to say you are a Christian, your attitude towards work and people speaks loudly. Diligence, integrity, respect, love, selflessness and more.

For instance, Godly virtues gave me opportunity to request for leave to attend a Bible school and it was granted with all joy… Even during the period I did one or two things for my Boss and He really appreciated it.


Dupe: Wow, Nice.

That’s amazing. The virtues you embraced, gave you access.

You’re a very busy woman, do you get enough time for yourself?

Sandra Areh: I do some times.


Dupe: Is it necessary for a young woman encumbered with a lot of activities to look good?

Sandra Areh: Absolutely!

Planning is the key.

Dupe: Does one have to spend too much time on one’s self to look good?

Sandra Areh: I don’t think so… I think knowing what suits will save you much time and meeting the right people/professionals… For instance, if  you go to a good saloon, the professional stylist will know what will fit the shape of  your face complexion and do their job.


Dupe: Yes. Knowing what works for you will save you time and energy.

Sandra Areh: Like scripture puts it, everyone should abide in their calling *laughs*.


Dupe: πŸ˜„ 

Ladies are engaged in a lot of things; considering this, do you think we can do as much as men do for God?

Sandra Areh: Yes. I believe in the power of prioritizing and delegation… You can not do everything. Do what is most important and delegate the rest to the right people.


Dupe: Beautiful..

What are the things that should be dropped in order to fully concentrate on important things?

Sandra Areh: Well, this differs from person to person… You’d have to define is important and give it time. God, your relationship(s), career/business etc


Dupe: Do you have any role model or woman you look up to?

Sandra Areh: Yes I do. Lots of them oo.


Dupe: Can we know some of them?

Sandra Areh: Just women right??


Dupe: Yes, just women

Sandra Areh: Pst(Mrs) Faith Oyedepo, Dr (Mrs) Becky Eneche, Pst(Mrs) Funke Adejumo, Pst(Mrs) Modele Fatoyinbo, Pst(Mrs) Opi Agha and more…

Dupe: Wow, great women.

Sandra Areh: Yes, they are…


Dupe: Do you have any word of advice for ladies in pursuit of God and purpose?

Sandra Areh: God is the Ultimate, hold unto Him tighter than any other thing. God first and He’ll compel other things to follow.

 

Dupe: Wow! Thank you so much for your time ma.

We hope to see more of you.

Sandra Areh: 😁 My pleasure darling. God Bless you!


Dupe: Bless you too ma 


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And leave your thoughts and comments below πŸ˜€.


20 facts about me

Hey guys. Happy Twos day.

I hope your week is moving well.

These are 20 interesting and boring facts about me. At first, it was very difficult coming up with 20 but now, there’s so much to write that 20 isn’t enough. So expect something more soon.

  1. My names are Olomola Sarah Modupe Busayo Mama Abeke. (Yes, they’re all mineπŸ˜ƒ).
  2. I’m a passionate reckless unapologetic Christian and lover of God.
  3. I’m a student of veterinary medicine.
  4. I’m obsessed with organization : I love things being in order. I love planning before time. I could pack my bags for a journey, three months before I’m set to leave. I love clearing my room. I love sorting clothes out before and after washing. I started writing down what should be done at a very young age. I’d write down my little “to-do” list and tick each one as I get it done. I love a perfectly arranged room, cupboard or locker (I may still scatter it sha).
  5. I love a little too much : I’m a lover, not a fighter πŸ˜‚. I love fiercely. When I love, I love with all (but when I don’t care, that’s it).
  6. I hate tea and I hate fish (with a passion) : I lost interest in fish when I was quite young and the reason then were the bones. The bones used to hurt me. Now it’s gone beyond that, I can’t even stand the smell of fish. Whenever I attempt eating it, it doesn’t end well (puke). As for tea, I just don’t like it.
  7. I laugh and smile a lot : Although, the Joy of the Lord is my strength, πŸ˜‚ this is becoming a problem because I laugh at serious times and when people are upset and it’s honestly never intentional. Most time my eyes smile before my face does. 
  8. I’m very sensitive : I get hurt easily and I read deep into words.
  9. I go from 100% love to 100% I-Dont-Care and nonchanlance, real fast.
  10. I love my mom with my life.
  11. My best friend is a very tall guy.
  12. I love Apostle Joshua Selman.
  13. I’m passionately crazily in love with bread.
  14. I hate cooking ; I only cook because I have to.
  15. I play a little too much.
  16. I love dressing corporate ; Even for normal events, I sometimes put on my blazer. πŸ˜‚
  17. I love people ; Love is a command. I especially love Nigerians, our diversity and culture.
  18. Sometimes, I talk too fast and stutter when I’m angry.
  19. I love Sarah Jakes Roberts ; she’s my role model.
  20. I’m sapiosexual.

Bonus : I get bored easily ; I can be sitting and watching you but I’m actually not seeing you. My mind is never idle, it’s always busy cause I have big dreams. πŸ˜‚

    There! I hope you feel like you know me better now. 

    Creating Your Reality

    I learnt something interesting on Sunday and I knew I had to share and write on it.

    We have two dimensions in the prophetic.

    1. Foreseeing

    2. Forth seeing 

    1. Foreseeing: This is a situatiom where an individual has gotten to a level where he/she has access to and can reveal the mind of God concerning something or someone for the future. Not everyone can foresee because it’s restricted to certain people, such that have the gift or have attained a particular level.
    2. Forth seeing: This is a case where an individual prophetically calls forth what they want to see and what they want to enter into experientially. It is not restricted to only some category of people, Your status as a child of God qualifies you for this. You have the power to call forth something that be not as though it were. All Christians can do this.

    You may not be able to foresee (yet) but you can forth see.

    You can call to be what you want by seeing it in your head. If you can’t see yourself there, you can’t get there.

    Apostle Joshua Selman says “The best way to predict your future is to create it”. There’s no accidental success. Begin to see yourself where you want to go. See yourself getting that degree with an amazing result, see yourself getting that job, see yourself writing and publishing that book, see yourself reaching your full potential. Your vision and confession are your possession.

    Possess the ability to see yourself in your goals.

    Cramps ; 5 Ways to mitigate them.

    The menstrual cycle is a very big part of every lady’s life.

    Our cycle comes with certain symptoms, pain or uneasiness known as premenstrual syndrome (PMS), MP (Menstrual pain) or menstrual cramps.

    Ladies, it’s no rocket science, it’s just you, feeling your uterus contract to shed its lining.

    This pain comes at different times, depending on the individual.

    For some, it comes days before, (PMS) informing them of the arrival of the cycle. While for others, it may come during or even after.

    It could be devastating and although it differs from girl to girl, it’s usually not too nice on anyone. Some ladies don’t feel cramps too much because the pain is quite mild on them and they can manage or ignore it. While others can not.

    Years ago, I read about a lady whose cramps were so bad that she’d miss exams due to pain. She’d stay at a spot and any slight movement could cause her serious pain. I also had a roommate who groans all through her menstrual days.

    Certain things also accompany menstrual pain, like Abdominal bloating, Headache (including migraine), Irritability, Pains, especially backache, Depression, Feeling generally emotional or troubled, Insomnia, Lack of concentration, Breast tenderness or swelling, Slight weight gain, Binge eating, restlessness, cravings and so on.

    The pain could be very severe, So you may not get the best of a lady during her cycle, depending on how hard it is on her. In all of these, there are still ways to alleviate the pain. (These are just alleviation methods so if pain persists, see a physician or gynecologist).

    I’ve brought out 5 simple ways..

    5 Ways To Mitigate Menstrual Cramps

    1. Exercise; Exercise is generally very good for the body to shed excess fat and to keep fit. During menstruation however, it helps even more in that it loosens up your muscles and eases the pain. So a jog down the road, a fast walk in the early hours of the morning, riding a bicycle, doing stretches and aerobics go a long way in mitigating pain and keeping you healthy during your period. A warm bath afterwards is also very important. (Warms baths should be taken regularly during periods).
    2. Eat healthy; Less fats, sweets and Carbs, more Vegetables and fruits. “A low-fat diet actually decreases overall levels of inflammation in the body,” says Aldo Palmieri MD , an ob/gyn at UCLA Health and professor of ob/gyn at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine in Los Angeles. A low-fat, vegetarian diet not only helps your health generally, says Dr. Palmieri, but it can have an indirect yet noticeable effect on menstrual cramps, too.
    3. Rub your lower tummy; Using certain aromatic essential oils and massage can also relieve menstrual cramp pain, according to a study published in May 2012 in the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology Research. You can also use a bottle of warm water. Self massaging helps relax the muscles.
    4. Eat chocolate; Yes eat chocolate. But note. “CHOCOLATE” not “CHOCOLATES” The last thing you need is excess glucose. A bar of chocolate won’t hurt. Dark chocolate to be precise because it contains caffeine, ion, magnesium and potassium and helps to reduce stress, boost mood, reduce pain, improve skin, reduce muscle cramps and relieve aching muscles.
    5. Pop a Safe Painkiller; I made this the last because not everyone is comfortable with taking pain killers. So if the above methods helped, this can be ignored but moderate use of a nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory medication (NSAID), such as ibuprofen or naproxen, can help.

    Bonus: Rest and sleep well.

    When the pain is so severe that it interferes with normal activity, it is called dysmenorrhea and requires medication.

    Do you get PMS or menstrual cramps and what do you do to reduce the pain. Leave comments and thanks for reading! ❀

    “Process” – The Refiner’s Flame

    Lately, I’ve been thinking and writing a lot about process.

    Some of us are already familiar with the word “process” but for those that are not, you can also refer to it as “training” or “refining”..

    A time of thorough discipline.

    Process is actually wide but I’ll write about a fraction of it today.

    Apostle Joshua Selman says “It’s not enough to be available, you must be usable”.

    In essence, we have a lot of available people, who are willing to work, but are they usable?

    Are you capable of being used?

    If you’re available but not usable, then you haven’t gone through process.

    Process is a series of event or set of procedures involved in “making”. So when you’re in process, you’re being “made”.

    Process doesn’t mean God has left you, in fact, it proves that He is with you, He loves you and wants you to be excellent.

    This training comes in divers ways, most times, unpleasing.

    If you’re a person used to being loved and appreciated, God can strategically place you in a system where you are not valued, loved or appreciated, a place where people don’t see you as a big deal. At first, you try to fight it, resist it, but it’s clear. It stings your ego and you begin to feel sad. You may even begin to feel inferior, (if you’re not spiritually intelligent enough to know what God is doing).

    Don’t hate or loathe those people, they are just acting according to plan. They are part of your process. At the end of the day, after that phase is over, you realize something has left you.

    Pride.

    Yes, pride.

    God has made you know what it feels like to be looked down on, so when people appreciate you, you value it.

    Most times, God refines us through the “flame” (uncomfortable situations) and the reason is because a lot of things have to leave us ; just like the Goldsmith does with his gold.

    If you want to be usable, some things have to leave you.

    You’re not usable the way you are, unless you want to settle for mediocrity.

    To reach your full potential, you must be refined.

    When you’re going through process, all you can do is ask for Grace, but you can’t ask it to pass over you.

    God has been taking you through various processes that have come as unpleasant (sometimes even embarrassing) situations and you have been missing it because instead of asking God “What are you teaching me through this? What do you want me to learn?”, you focus more on the situation and the people and let it bring you down and that is a bad thing because you can’t become successful that way.

    No one EVER identifies with process, but everyone wants to identify with success.

    After process, you become usable, which makes you successful.

    God is refining His people. A lot of people are going through process right now, (and I pray for Grace for them all) but you may not know.

    Stop fighting situations around you and learn from them.

    It may be very unpleasant, but remember, you’re becoming a better person.

    Wait

    Wait

    Wait…..

    A word I’ve come to hate

    They’ve all gone, very far

    Some are close to getting “it”

    Others are not, but they are all far ahead of me.

    Yet you ask me to wait!

    You keep holding me back here

    I know I have what it takes

    I know the costs and the stakes

    I can do more than their expectations

    I know I can surpass their peaks.
    Why do you keep holding me back?

    Why won’t you let the spotlight shine on me?

    Why won’t you let me go out and get a “name”?

    Do you hate me so much that you don’t want to see me celebrated?

    What is it about me that you have refused me to be revealed?

    You keep whispering, in my ears, “Wait, wait”.

    I’m getting tired of waiting …..

    His reply

    “And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, and was in the deserts till the day of his shewing unto Israel.

    Your day of shewing is yet to come

    I love you too much to put you out there prematurely.

    You despise this desert experience, but you’re ignorant of the fact that it’s building you..

    Wait, my child or you’ll rise  like smoke only to disappear without a trace. 

    Wait princess, lest you be like them, here today and gone tomorrow.

    Wait for the appointed time

    Wait for your time of “shewing”

    They may have gone ahead of you but they are not ahead of you

    Because when I’m ready to reveal to the world what I’ve been working on, in you, I accelerate you. 

    Have you not heard?  ‘They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they  shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not  be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.’

    So wait, for in no time your wings will be ready to soar.”