When You Feel Numb And “not-spiritual” – Powerful Keys That’ll Dramatically Improve Your Spiritual Life.

My Christian life has been sweet, to say the least. Meeting Jesus is the best thing that has happened to me and my life.
This joy that I have is available for everyone.
If you haven’t experienced it, please say this prayer.

“Heavenly father, I’m empty without you. I want to feel the joy and warmth that comes from a relationship with You, Lord Jesus, I surrender my life to you, make it yours.”

Welcome to the family of Christ.
You’re now a Kingdom citizen, get a bible, a book and a pen, join a bible believing church close to you and get filled with the Holy Spirit with the evidence of speaking in tongues.

I carry the Spirit of God – the same Spirit that raised Jesus Christ from the dead on my inside but there are still times when it doesn’t feel like it.
There are times when I feel everything but spiritual. Times when I feel numb and void of God’s presence. Are you familiar with this?
Different things could be responsible for this; an attack from the devil, challenges, polluted atmospheres, a dying prayer and Word life etc.

What do you do when it feels like God has left you?

I devised five ways to come out of this.

  • Be still : It may not actually be that you’re spiritually unhealthy; you may just be too occupied and overwhelmed. The first thing to do when you’re so busy that it feels like God has left you, is to stop! There are dimensions of God that you can’t see in a busy atmosphere.

Psalms 46:10 KJV: Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth

  • Meditate ; The Word of the Lord is very powerful. The Bible is beyond just a “book”. It is a compendium of mysteries. If sensitive enough, you can actually hear God through constant meditation and reading of the Bible.

Psalms 4;4KJV: Stand in awe, and sin not: commune with your own heart upon your bed, and be still. Selah.

  • Worship : Sincere and deep worship in reverence to God, draws His Presence to you. Worship is one of the fastest ways to ascend God’s presence. It’s beyond just music so whether you’re playing worship from your phone or singing with your mouth, your heart must be in tune and aligned. Staying in an atmosphere of worship is called “soaking” in the spirit; this is one of the prices of intimacy with the Holy Spirit.
  • Pray in tongues : Tongues are languages in the realm of the Spirit. When you pray in tongues, there is a response in the spiritual realm because it is a language that identifies you as a spiritual being. Praying in tongues or praying in the Spirit is communicating with God and not man. One of the lies the devil uses to deceive Christians is that praying in tongues is not for everyone. The only way to pray effectively is to pray in the spirit. Praying in tongues will revolutionalize your prayer life.
  • Fellowship : There are times when I feel like I am spiritually dehydrated and what I do is to go to the midst of Christians to ride on the wings of fellowship in unity. There is a church, fellowship, spiritual movement, youth fellowship et cetera, close to you. Find your way there and soak. This is one of the easiest keys because you’re stepping into an already made atmosphere to tap into what’s available there.

Finally, always be concious of the fact that you carry God’s Spirit.

Have a great weekend, see you next week!


“Process” – The Refiner’s Flame

Lately, I’ve been thinking and writing a lot about process.

Some of us are already familiar with the word “process” but for those that are not, you can also refer to it as “training” or “refining”..

A time of thorough discipline.

Process is actually wide but I’ll write about a fraction of it today.

Apostle Joshua Selman says “It’s not enough to be available, you must be usable”.

In essence, we have a lot of available people, who are willing to work, but are they usable?

Are you capable of being used?

If you’re available but not usable, then you haven’t gone through process.

Process is a series of event or set of procedures involved in “making”. So when you’re in process, you’re being “made”.

Process doesn’t mean God has left you, in fact, it proves that He is with you, He loves you and wants you to be excellent.

This training comes in divers ways, most times, unpleasing.

If you’re a person used to being loved and appreciated, God can strategically place you in a system where you are not valued, loved or appreciated, a place where people don’t see you as a big deal. At first, you try to fight it, resist it, but it’s clear. It stings your ego and you begin to feel sad. You may even begin to feel inferior, (if you’re not spiritually intelligent enough to know what God is doing).

Don’t hate or loathe those people, they are just acting according to plan. They are part of your process. At the end of the day, after that phase is over, you realize something has left you.


Yes, pride.

God has made you know what it feels like to be looked down on, so when people appreciate you, you value it.

Most times, God refines us through the “flame” (uncomfortable situations) and the reason is because a lot of things have to leave us ; just like the Goldsmith does with his gold.

If you want to be usable, some things have to leave you.

You’re not usable the way you are, unless you want to settle for mediocrity.

To reach your full potential, you must be refined.

When you’re going through process, all you can do is ask for Grace, but you can’t ask it to pass over you.

God has been taking you through various processes that have come as unpleasant (sometimes even embarrassing) situations and you have been missing it because instead of asking God “What are you teaching me through this? What do you want me to learn?”, you focus more on the situation and the people and let it bring you down and that is a bad thing because you can’t become successful that way.

No one EVER identifies with process, but everyone wants to identify with success.

After process, you become usable, which makes you successful.

God is refining His people. A lot of people are going through process right now, (and I pray for Grace for them all) but you may not know.

Stop fighting situations around you and learn from them.

It may be very unpleasant, but remember, you’re becoming a better person.




A word I’ve come to hate

They’ve all gone, very far

Some are close to getting “it”

Others are not, but they are all far ahead of me.

Yet you ask me to wait!

You keep holding me back here

I know I have what it takes

I know the costs and the stakes

I can do more than their expectations

I know I can surpass their peaks.
Why do you keep holding me back?

Why won’t you let the spotlight shine on me?

Why won’t you let me go out and get a “name”?

Do you hate me so much that you don’t want to see me celebrated?

What is it about me that you have refused me to be revealed?

You keep whispering, in my ears, “Wait, wait”.

I’m getting tired of waiting …..

His reply

“And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, and was in the deserts till the day of his shewing unto Israel.

Your day of shewing is yet to come

I love you too much to put you out there prematurely.

You despise this desert experience, but you’re ignorant of the fact that it’s building you..

Wait, my child or you’ll rise  like smoke only to disappear without a trace. 

Wait princess, lest you be like them, here today and gone tomorrow.

Wait for the appointed time

Wait for your time of “shewing”

They may have gone ahead of you but they are not ahead of you

Because when I’m ready to reveal to the world what I’ve been working on, in you, I accelerate you. 

Have you not heard?  ‘They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they  shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not  be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.’

So wait, for in no time your wings will be ready to soar.”

​More than half way gone

Flipping through the pages
Some nonchalantly
Some full of purpose

Laughs, love, tears, cares

197 pages closed already, only 168 left

What lies ahead?

Does a fulfilling 197 pages guarantee a fulfilling 168?

Two questions.
β€’ I’ve had it all together since the 1st of January with no mistakes or disappointments, does that guarantee that my December 31st will be full of laughs, joy and contentment?

β€’ From January till now, it’s been one challenge or the other.

Tears, fears and misery

I’ve fallen literally all through the year

I’ve had more tears than laughs.

I’ve not had a beautiful first half, is my year wasted?

A fulfilling first half doesn’t guarantee a beautiful second half neither does a miserable first half mean a bad end.

Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, saith the Lord.

Thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

For those who haven’t had a nice start, you have a role to play but are you willing to trust the one who knows this story better than you?

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not on your own understanding.

In all your ways acknowledge Him, and he shall direct your path.

Entrust the next chapters to this author and watch him direct and help you.

​My Dual Citizenship

Hi bunnies
Some Sundays back, in church, we had an interactive session from Matthew 22 verse 15 where the Pharisees were trying to cage Jesus and challenged him with the question about payment of taxes, and we looked at Jesus’ epic response “Give to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God what is God’s”
We brought forth the different interpretations that have been given to what Jesus said, including those that said, “What Jesus meant was As a christian, you can serve God and still pay allegiance to ‘gods’ performing sacrifices and all”

We immediately refuted and corrected that interpretation. That is paying allegiance to Satan! So for the benefit of those that believe it’s totally ok to seek God on Sunday and “consult” other means behind the curtains. That is wrong! Matthew 6:24/Luke 16:13

We were now made to understand that Jesus Christ was only telling them to give the necessary dues to constituted authorities and at the same time, give honor to God.

Pay your tithe and pay your tax!

That was my muse for this post.

It only got me thinking, Jesus was talking about dual citizenship!

I’ve been saved so I’m a citizen of Heaven and a citizen Nigeria.

A person with dual citizenship is entitled to the rights of both nations and at the same time is obliged to obey the rules of both countries.
So as a Nigerian, I get to enjoy the rights of every Nigerian 

And as a citizen of the kingdom, I get to enjoy and draw from everything made available in the kingdom.

I obey kingdom rules, At the same time, I obey the rules and regulations of my country Nigerian.

I live the life of God which assures me eternal life and I apply the principles of Jesus which guarantees success here on earth.

Now the only time a problem will arise is when obeying Nigeria means disobeying the rules of the kingdom.

You see when you have 2 things, you enjoy both but when it gets to a point where one has to go, you go for the one that is more important.


So as a Nigerian, Payment of taxes, obeying simple rules and regulations set by constituted authorities, giving honor to secular leaders (believers or not) and other things expected of me, I do.

Not doing them, will not speak well of me as a Christian. The only time I’m allowed to be defiant is when they’re going to make me compromise.

I only become a “rebel” when my convictions are being thwarted because I have the understand that 

I am living as a citizen of heaven here on earth

I am a first a citizen of heaven before a citizen of Nigeria but that does not permit me to be disobedient to authorities in my country.

At the end of the lesson I was able to make my own little resolution to obey God and my leaders.

To be loyal as a citizen of heaven and a citizen of Nigeria and exploit both privileges.

18 But Jesus perceived  their wickedness, and said, Why tempt ye me,  ye  hypocrites? 

19 Shew me the tribute money. And they  brought unto him a penny. 

20 And he saith unto them,  Whose  is this image and superscription?  

21 They  say unto him, Caesar’s. Then saith he unto them,  Render therefore unto Caesar the things which are  Caesar’s; and unto God the things that are God’s. 

22  When they had heard these words, they marvelled,  and left him, and went their way.


Apostle Joshua Selman Nimmak is my spiritual father.
There are so many things I love about him but I’ll share just five.

It’s his birthday tomorrow and I thought it best to do this now.

Apostle Joshua Selman is a young man of God whose teachings are deep truth of the word of God.

He is a carrier of God’s presence.

His impact cannot be exaggerated or overemphasized.
He finished from ABU and he has been in ministry for not less than 9years, though Eternity Nertwork International (ENI) just clocked 6years in March 2017.
I’m not writing his biography, I’m writing on the things I love about him.

I’ve been attending koinonia for a few years now so I’m not writing from a fan’s point of view, neither am i writing about someone i read about or someone I’ve heard about. I’m writing as a daughter and a disciple.
Attending koinonia, all I can say is that you have to be there to know what’s up. Trying to fully explain the experience is not really possible as my vocabulary is not updated enough to use the magnitude of words I want to.
So here you go, 5 things I love about my father.

  1. Humility : For a man that carries God’s presence and is an envoy of the most high, Apostle is humility personified. He doesn’t just preach the law of honor, he practices it. His spiritual escapades has never made him a showoff. His respect to mothers, fathers and ministers of God, baffles me. 1Peter 5:5. I’m so sure this is one of the reasons God loves him James 4:6, Psalm 138:6. Pride is far from him Prov 16:5.
  2. His command of English language : He has made it clear severally that oratory is different from utterance (he has both). His command of English is something I admire so much. Listening to him and how fluent he is, you’d think learning English language will make you speak that well but that’s a lie. The spirit backs up his words so even if you weren’t really interested in listening, at some point, your mind will be captured, which leads me to number 3.
  3. His ability to capture the minds of people : People attend Koinonia for different reasons and with different intentions but end up surrendering to God and this reminds me of one of Apostle’s saying “You may come the way you are but you can’t remain the way you are”. He communicates the message of God to people so well that even people that don’t understand English well, understand him. This is one gift God has given to him, the teaching anointing. If he were my lecturer, I would never fail 😊😊.
  4. His smile : It can light up a room, hehe. 😊 I was speaking with one of his closest workers and he said “Apart from the loving father side of him, he’s an administrator and loves organization”. So he doesn’t smile often but when he does, it’ll just melt your heart. It has melted mine many times. He is a beautiful creature (before nko? With all that glory of God shining and radiating on him, what do you expect? Spending time with God will just make you over fine. The secret place beautifies you). And his smile is heavenly. So yea, his smile is yet another reason I love Apostle Joshua Selman.
  5. His sincere desire to see people truly blessed: He has access to several mysteries and secrets of God and he’s not selfish with them. He gives timely messages. Each and every koinonia message carries power. In every message, he dispenses what he has received. He imparts in his workers, he blesses people financially. He gives everything.

There are so many other things I love about him like ; his love for his workers, his sacrificial lifestyle, his ability to make you feel special, his desire to see God glorified in everything he does, his sense of humor and the list goes on unending.

Three of his favorite quotes are ;

  1. “We will all be great and the beautiful part is, we will all know ourselves”.
  2. “You may come the way you are but you can’t remain the way you are”.
  3. “The anointing does not make the difference, the anointing IS the difference”.

Happy birthday daddy, I love, honor and celebrate you.

Happy birthday sir

Finally for those expecting me to write his age, I’m not writing. If you want to know, ask Google. πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

While You Still Have You….

Life as a single is fun.

You don’t know how much freedom and fresh air you have until you get into a relationship.
Being single, helps you discover yourself to a large extent and that’s why it’s not advisable to rush into relationships.

The way you spend your time as a single, determines the kind of relationship you end up in.

Your single life is the only time you have you all to yourself

Believe you me, the moment you get into a relationship (not even marriage), you loose a great part of your alone time, some things will suffer. 

The time to actually find yourself is when you’re single. Please don’t go in search for a partner when you haven’t found you.

While you’re still single, is the time to actually press in for more. Search for God.

In his book waiting and dating, Dr Myles Munroe said 

  Being alone as a single person has many advantages, especially for a believer. One of the greatest of these is the opportunity to give undivided attention to the pursuit of spiritual growth and a deep relationship with the Lord.

The time you are most prepared for dating is when you don’t need anyone to complete you, fulfill you, or instill in you a sense of worth or purpose. You are ready to date when you have first learned how to be single. Learn how to be alone.

Contentment with being alone involves learning how to be fulfilled in your singleness. A truly single person is one who is complete physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually without dependence upon anyone else. Successful singles find their personal identity and sense of wholeness within themselves and in relationship with God. Because they are complete within themselves, only  whole individuals are fully comfortable being alone. They can thrive and prosper whether or not they are involved in a relationship. For such people a relationship is an added blessing; it is icing on the cake.

Be complete in God and in yourself first

Do what you have to do, read as much books as you can, pray as long as you want, reach out to as many people as you can (when you get a partner, there are certain people you won’t be able to reach out to, fully. You’ll be restricted). 

Spend time with God.

If you spend your single life with Him, He won’t let you fall into wrong hands.

The best place to find a godly person is on the road to God’s Kingdom.

The best place to find the right person is on the road to fulfilling your purpose.

To the singles, please do what is needful while you still have you.

The Blogger Recognition Award


I’m literally screaming right now

I’ve been nominated for the blogger recognition award by the beautiful preacher’s kid Atinuke Awe. Thank you so much ma.

This is so cool. A platform that motivates and encourages bloggers.

I’m so honored.

This is special to me as it is my first award. 

                Here are the RULES;

  1. You have to thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog;
  2. You have to write a post to show your award;
  3. Give a brief story of how you started your blog;
  4. Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers;
  5. Select 15 bloggers you want to give this award to; and
  6. Comment on the blogs of these 15 bloggers and let them know that you have nominated them, providing a link to the post you created.

     So, Here you go…..

    I’d like to thank Atinuke again, 

    Thank you😘❀. Check out her awesome blog.. Tinukeawe

                HOW I STARTED MY BLOG

    Growing up, I’d always loved the pen and paper. I wrote stories on any and everything, I even wrote story books and poems in primary 5 which never got published, some of which I presented at speech and price giving days and got standing ovations and rounds of applause. Writing is my lifestyle, it makes me so happy and excited.
    There’s this inner joy I feel whenever I’m writing and I know it’s my passion. I tried starting a blog in JSS 3 but due to one reason or the other, I couldn’t.

    So, eventually, I started my blog, I can’t remember the exact date but it was sometime around early 2016 and late 2015.

    I didnt know what to do with it at first, so it was empty for months until my passion drove me back to it and that’s how my WordPress journey began and I must say, it’s been an amazing experience. Meeting people that share my passion, people with like minds. Ladies especially, it gives me great joy. Whenever I’m here, I’m at home. Reading and writing and I don’t want to leave.
    My blog is versatile but mostly Lifestyle, Style and Gospel.

    Even now, in school studying veterinary medicine, my passion for writing has only increased and seeing people like Janet of Lifestyle by janet who is a medical doctor and still runs a beautiful blog well, I’m quite convinced that there’s no stopping me.

    P.S: I run a blog on blogger too, check it out Dupe’s blog

                    ADVICE TO NEW BLOGGERS

    I still consider myself a new blogger but I can say a few things


    I can’t stress how important this is. Get you a blogger that represents what you stand for. Someone that has what you want to have.
    Follow them closely and learn from them.
    Honor and respect them, if possible, make friends with them.


     I know you’ve read this one million times but that’s just it. Be consistent. Consistency is key. Continue. Be regular, be dependable, be firm and the sky is your starting point.

    I nominate……..

    Toni – Tonitheartist

    Vincent Desmond – Quirks and Outfits

    Imani – sincerelyimani

    Esther – Thoughts9367

    Urbanoversabiblog – urbanoversabi

    Sandra Adeyemi – Sandra Adeyemi

    Arowolo Modupe – Mo wrote it

    Eudy Bassey –  humour and style

    Ayonimi –  ayo’s world

    Afroclan – afroclan

    Damilola Shittu – Disperse 

    There you go, I hope Atinuke likes it, I’ll be waiting for your comments ☺☺
    I’ll just drop this here, throw back to last year 

    15 Things I learnt From My Proverbial Girl Devotional.


    Happy Ressurection Tuesday πŸ˜„πŸ˜„ (I don’t know if that is a thing but happy easter anyways)

    I’m still writing exams so you won’t be hearing/reading much from me for now.

    But I thought it’d be nice to share this for the ladies.

    My first devotional this year was “The Proverbial Girl ; Wisdom Values & being Fabulous”, recommended by Oreoluwa. Check out her blog here and youVersion posts here and here.

    It was amazing and it blessed me, thank you Ore.

    I learnt quite a lot from it but I extracted 15 lessons to share. In case you haven’t come across this devotional before, this will bless you and if you have, it still wwill.

    1. Measuring your worth by people’s outward appearances or things will only cause low self esteem and insecurity. Your results are inaccurate if you measure with the wrong thing. A Proverbial Girl knows her true value can only be determined when she measures it by the great potential the Father has already placed on the inside of her. (For her price is far above rubies)
    2. There are certain relationships a girl should cherish and hold well
    3. Jesus is the only perfect friend
    4. Being a 5-star friend does not rest on the person you are on the outside but who you are on the inside.
    5. A good friend knows her friend’s strength and weaknesses
    6. Be soft and beautiful
    7. Wake up and pour your heart out to God
    8. The proverbial girl is consistent and doesn’t give up.
    9. The key to becoming consistent is planning ahead. Counting the cost. (What am I getting myself into and what will I have to be willing to sacrifice) Being determined and having a great support system to help you along the way.
    10. A proverbial girl brings life to everyone around. (Emits positive energy)
    11. Some things make you valuable and some things can destroy your worth. Make a conscious effort to be more involved in the things that make you valuable and begin to pull away from the things that can destroy your value.
    12. Practice thinking before responding. Make it your goal to respond in a soft and beautiful manner regardless of the situation.
    13. The Proverbial Girl also knows how important it is to surround herself with encouraging people who love and want to see her succeed in life.
    14. A Proverbial Girl brings life to everyone around her because she knows she possesses life inside. You may be having the worst day ever, but she has the ability to make your day a whole lot brighter.
    15. The proverbial girl may not have a perfect life but she has a truly beautiful life because she chooses to.

        Join me in reading Proverbial Girl: Wisdom, Values, and Being Fabulous:


        Read and live it out


        Social Media Vs Jesus.

        ​I was speaking with my pastor during the week after prayer meeting and we were discussing on how I’m managing a social media page for the church and he asked me a question, 

             “Dupe, are you sure you want to do this?” And I smiled, then he said 

        I’m not smiling with you, can you do this“? 

        I was surprised, why wouldn’t I want to do it? Hello pastor, it’s social media, every 21st century kid loves the internet. Is it not just to post pictures from the church with intelligent captions?, I mean what more could there be to it?

        And then as if answering my thoughts he said 

          “Dupe Sarah, Don’t let your posts contradict the ministry.

        If you know you’ll sway along the way, and start posting ungodly things even on your main account, close that account down now! Your posts must go with the ministry’s convictions

        I was speechless, and then I had to stop, and ask myself “Dupe, are you ready for this”?

        I’ve had this post in mind for a while but my pastor became a joint muse for it.

        It was strong upon my spirit to make this post.

        Going through Facebook, twitter, Instagram and social media at large, I see different things everyday

        A friend once tweeted “You can’t have Jesus in your bio and tweet anything/everything, you’re supposed to be representing him”

        A lot of our posts contradict our bio or what we claim we are.

        There are so many trends we want to follow forgetting Romans 12:2.

        We’re so fast to retweet, repost, share or like anything we see. Some of us are even the ones posting these things. We’re the authors of these ungodly posts.

        If you’re going to put “MOG, WOG, friend of God” or “Christian” in your bio, make sure your posts match as well, stop confusing people 

        God is not an author of confusion

        I once saw someone’s bio on Instagram and it read “I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me so fuck all haters” 

        Wow! Really

        Like someone put it, hypocrisy is both a comedy and a tragedy.

        I don’t intend making this post longer than necessary.

        Jesus is our role model today only because he lived like the father, he was the word, his life spoke the word.

        You can’t be christian and your social media pages scream “Antichrist”

        We need to be sensitive and careful as Christians.

        Sticking to Jesus even online

        I follow so many godly men and women, youth aflame for Christ especially on twitter so I’m motivated and blessed everyday. Social media is adding to my life.

        Don’t waste your data, give Jesus space online too

        Hold on to your convictions

        On a lighter note