He’s hitting me!

Domestic violence against women seem to have become the order of the day. 😞

I’m sorry to say, but most of the time, these women cause their own misfortune.
I remember speaking with a family friend whose husband was beating her.

They’d both come to my daddy for counseling

The lady, though much older than I am, is very close to me and tells me everything.

On this fateful day, she was telling me that, that’s how he’d been behaving even before they got married. Although he didn’t really beat her into a pulp then, but a little slap here and a little tap there. Yea, that kind of “stuff”. It amazes me how some ladies find a man hitting them “romantic”. I mean c’mon! That’s disrespect!

If you still see those kind of things as romantic then you’re either immature or there’s something very wrong with your mindset.

Anyways, back to my story, she also told of me of the atrocities he committed with her friend while she was in the house and they thought she was sleeping, and in my mind I was like “And you still married him?! beautiful πŸ‘, very beautiful”

She was bitter saying “I didn’t expect him to start acting like this after marriage, he just started drinking and hitting me”

How did you expect him to behave please??? He should start taking you for prayer meetings and taking you on vacations?

He showed you a tip of the iceberg while dating you and you still went for the whole iceberg by marrying him and now you’re complaining.

I didn’t know what to say to her so I repeated the weak old line

“Every marriage has its own challenges”

But she said “No, Dupe. I know marriages have challenges but most of the men I know, don’t beat their wives, they have other issues that they work on together. My husband has turned me into a punching bag, he even wounded our baby once. He’s become a monster”

In my mind I was like “Ah! Nawa o and you’re still sitting down there, until he kills you and your baby, hmmm”

Anyways to cut the long story short, they were both counselled and prayed for, but trust me, I knew deep within me that that problem had not ended.
My point; You have a guy, a boyfriend or whatever. And he’s slapping you or talking rudely to you and you’re still laughing, Ah! Sister, the devil is sitting on your brain o! You better ask him to stand up before you make a decision you’ll live to regret. If he slaps you now, he’ll slap you again.

Apostle Joshua Selman always says “Marry a man that fears God”

He stresses and emphasizes this all the time and you’ll think it’s becoming a clichΓ© but that’s a life saving advice.

Don’t just join the #SayNoToDomesticViolence Campaign, start checking so it doesn’t happen to you too.

As for me, I’ve never seen my daddy lay his hands on my mom so I’ll never allow anybody’s son hit me.

Even if you were exposed to such at home, that nonesense must not be repeated
And to women under this bondage, it’s time to speak out!

Regardless of what he’s using to hold you down. He’s hitting but you can’t speak out because ; You’re not financially free, You’re scared he’ll kill you if you talk, You “Love” him (That’s not love my dear and even if you love him truly, that’s the more reason you should speak because he needs help)

Speak out!

He’s supposed to cherish, value and care for you, not use you to practice wrestling.

It’s time for ladies to get up and OUT of toxic relationships.

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While You Still Have You….

Life as a single is fun.

You don’t know how much freedom and fresh air you have until you get into a relationship.
Being single, helps you discover yourself to a large extent and that’s why it’s not advisable to rush into relationships.

The way you spend your time as a single, determines the kind of relationship you end up in.

Your single life is the only time you have you all to yourself

Believe you me, the moment you get into a relationship (not even marriage), you loose a great part of your alone time, some things will suffer. 

The time to actually find yourself is when you’re single. Please don’t go in search for a partner when you haven’t found you.

While you’re still single, is the time to actually press in for more. Search for God.

In his book waiting and dating, Dr Myles Munroe said 

  Being alone as a single person has many advantages, especially for a believer. One of the greatest of these is the opportunity to give undivided attention to the pursuit of spiritual growth and a deep relationship with the Lord.

The time you are most prepared for dating is when you don’t need anyone to complete you, fulfill you, or instill in you a sense of worth or purpose. You are ready to date when you have first learned how to be single. Learn how to be alone.

Contentment with being alone involves learning how to be fulfilled in your singleness. A truly single person is one who is complete physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually without dependence upon anyone else. Successful singles find their personal identity and sense of wholeness within themselves and in relationship with God. Because they are complete within themselves, only  whole individuals are fully comfortable being alone. They can thrive and prosper whether or not they are involved in a relationship. For such people a relationship is an added blessing; it is icing on the cake.

Be complete in God and in yourself first

Do what you have to do, read as much books as you can, pray as long as you want, reach out to as many people as you can (when you get a partner, there are certain people you won’t be able to reach out to, fully. You’ll be restricted). 

Spend time with God.

If you spend your single life with Him, He won’t let you fall into wrong hands.

The best place to find a godly person is on the road to God’s Kingdom.

The best place to find the right person is on the road to fulfilling your purpose.

To the singles, please do what is needful while you still have you.